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Stepping Into What’s Ahead: Releasing Attachment & Choosing Commitment As we move through any transition— changing careers, healing after loss(es), starting or ending a relationship, moving to a new place, or stepping into the uncertainty of a new year—we often feel that we know the recipe: let go of the old, choose new goals, lean into what’s next. And yet… how many times have you done exactly that and still not felt the movement that you were hoping for? Was something missing all along? A Crucial Distinction There is a subtle yet crucial distinction (one I have witnessed for myself and for others) that can transform the way we navigate these moments: the difference between attachment and commitment. Attachment is a form of grasping. It ties us to a specific outcome, a fixed timeline, or stories we tell ourselves about how things should unfold—or why they cannot change. Attachment constrains us. It narrows our field of vision, especially because we tend to project the future based on what we already know, what feels familiar. That familiarity can feel reassuring at first, particularly if we have experienced abandonment or instability in our lives. It is natural to hold onto something—anything—that seems steady. It feels reassuring at first, as if it was something that we could control. But attachment weighs every step with pressure, and with the worry that if reality doesn’t match the picture in our mind, we have somehow failed. Sounds familiar? Commitment, in contrast, is anchored in values and in our chosen way of showing up—not in outcomes. It is not about predicting the… Read More